Once upon a time… or two times… or maybe 250 million times… I told someone something that I immediately regretted. I have walked away from certain conversations feeling naked and exposed. I have woken up some mornings with flooded anxiety about something I shared with someone the previous night.
This is what I like to call a vulnerability hangover- a.k.a. shame.
So what’s in a shame?
Shame is the ultimate fear of disconnection from people. It is the result of rejection or fear of others not accepting us. Shame is the voice in our head saying “if you share this, others are not going to accept you” or “because you told them this, they are going to see you differently.”
I am unworthy of love.
I am not pretty enough to accomplish that.
I am not successful enough to do this.
I am not good enough to talk to them.
So, I am here to tell you this- having a vulnerability hangover actually has… NOTHING…to do with vulnerability at all. This said “hangover” is a result of shame, which can lead to some other really ugly things.
depression, anxiety, substance abuse, eating disorders
Recognize the brutal lies the devil tells you and start believing that what makes you vulnerable makes you BEAUTIFUL! Rest assured that the darkest thought you could have, the lowest point you can feel, and the furthest place you could run… His grace will always meet us there.
- Remind yourself that you are worthy of love and acceptance.
- Surrender to your vulnerability.
- Have the courage to be imperfect.
- Your life is your art.
- Vulnerability is most definitely NOT a weakness.
“But God doesn’t call us to be comfortable. He calls us to trust Him so completely that we are unafraid to put ourselves in situations where we will be in trouble if He doesn’t come through.” ~Francis Chan, Crazy Love